How To Get Along With (Difficult) People
Let’s play a little game. On a scale of 1-10, I want you to think about how you feel right now, 10 being the highest. People can be frustrating. Who hasn’t gotten cut off on the way to work when you’re already late and now you caught the red light and the a-hole you cut you off made it through the light? Who hasn’t worked really hard on something for a meeting or a project, and then it gets canceled at the last minute because the other person forgot or scheduled something “more important” during that time?
People can be frustrating.
Your mind will take you back to a time when you were personally wronged by that idiotic moron who completely disrespected you in public and it still stings like it was yesterday really it was EIGHT YEARS AGO.
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel now?
What you just experienced most likely – unless your number didn’t change – is called a vibrational shift in energy.
Vibrational energy is explained by certain emotions and thought patterns, such as joy, peace, and acceptance, which create high-frequency vibrations, while other feelings and mindsets (such as anger, despair, and fear) vibrate at a lower rate. The law of attraction states that you attract similar energy to where you are vibrating.
How do we stop letting other people bring us down? How do we stop allowing external situations to rattle our internal energy? The first step: stop focusing on other people. We can’t control other people.
This is not a bad thing – it is freeing!! Omg, you can’t control other people!! This means you can stop trying to!
Once you learn to control your emotional responses to other people, you can begin to keep your energy at a high vibration – and therefore, stay in the zone where you will continue to attract good and positive things into your life.
There’s a book out there called The Four Agreements, and the author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. He gives us 4 solutions to create a life of JOY even when other people seem to really be testing us. I’m going to go over 2 of the agreements and – because it’s fantastic, I’ll invite to you discover the other 2 on your own.
First agreement: Don’t take things personally.
Second agreement: Accept that everyone has a unique model of the world.
Dive even deeper and find out the 7 ways to get along with difficult people so you protect your energy and keep your vibe high on this podcast too!!!